The first time you’re in love (and lust) with the man of your dreams, the sex can be red hot. You barely have to look at each other to be ready to go.
That seemingly unquenchable excitement can wane, over time… And what are you left with?
Even better smokin’ hot sex.
That’s right, I said “even better smokin’ hot sex” — and I mean it! The more experience you gain, the more you come to know your man, and (I’m gonna say it) the older you get, the better your sex life can be.
Now, like any fabulous part of your life, it takes a little work to get there. But the rewards are… quite delicious.
Here are 5 “Heat It Up” ideas for reviving your sex life, in addition to a few insider tips for making the magic happen.
1. The more sex you have, the more sex you want.
Ever notice how the day after an incredibly memorable sex session it’s all you can do not to run home after work and try for a repeat? Great sex creates more great sex! And it works like any good sport; regular play makes you even better at the game.
Smokin’ Hot Secret: Don’t wait until you “feel” sexy to initiate a little fun sex play, because it often works the other way around: Whisper something naughty to him before you both head off to work, follow up with a email full of hints, and by the time you get together again, you’ll find a sexual fire smoldering and ready to ignite!
2. Feel free to take matters into your own hands.
Stop worrying about whether or not he is going to give you an orgasm.
Guarantee your orgasm by using your hands or a vibrator. He’ll find it arousing, especially if you describe the hot, sexy things you’re thinking while you’re doing it.
I adore the idea of “women first” when it comes to sexual fulfillment. So you get yours, then he can have his. (Unless you want another of your own first, hah!)
And don’t be afraid to give him a hand, either. He’ll love having you finish him off for a change.
3. Sex in a soft, clean bed is underrated.
Yes, the occasional romp in the backseat of an SUV, a quickie up against the wall, or a steamy session in the bathtub are incredibly good.
But you bought those fabulous sheets and that perfectly cushion-y comforter to be enjoyed. So put them to good, regular use!
Smokin’ Hot Secret: Try never, ever, ever to have your study or office space in your bedroom if at all possible! Clear the clutter and (this is a big one) get rid of the television. Instead of an office, bill-paying station or laundry dump, make your bedroom into a inviting, sexy love nest. Add extra pillows! You’ll find lots of smokin’ hot uses for them. You can also add some mood lighting, flowers, even a bottle of wine and a couple of sparkling glasses…
4. Accept gifts without guilt.
Think about how good it makes you feel to perform a one-way sexual treat for him (like the oral sex you gave him right after he got out of the shower, before he headed in to work).
Don’t deny him the same pleasure of giving. In fact, you can even let him know exactly the kinds of gifts you would most like to receive!
5. Props are fun!
Yes, raw, naked sex is awesome, but vibrators, feathers, scarves, brushes, ice cubes and other toys can be the icing on the sexy, delicious cupcake.
You can find all sorts of interesting items for sex play around the house, or you email him the link to a sex toy website and offer to try out any item he purchases. Oh, the possibilities.
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